How To Deal with a PMS-ing Girlfriend
how timely, how lovely 🙂
Women can be cranky when they have their periods. Then again, would you be happy if you spent three days feeling like you’ve been kicked in the stomach? Here are some ways to be more supportive and understanding toward your girlfriend when she has her period.
Never assume that a girl is in this situation unless you are completely sure, as it is incredibly offensive. Although some men may be sympathetic at ‘that time of the month’, the general perception that women have is that men can’t actually understand what a woman goes through during menstruation, given that they do not experience it. To assume that a girl is in such a circumstance, without being told, is arrogant at best and completely unreasonable at worst.
Get informed about PMS. If you don’t know the exact reasons for its existence, you may never understand why it happens. This will leave you feeling like your girlfriend is treating you like a doormat for no or close to no reason and might take a toll on your relationship.
Realize that you cannot control the situation no matter what you do. Realize also that mood swings in girls in this situation are not necessarily under their control. Knowing this, and understanding that it will happen one way or another is your best strategy.
Find out what her usual pattern is, i.e. is she usually in pain/depressed/tired? Is her libido strong or practically non-existent? Try to adapt to these patterns. If her libido lessens during that time, don’t act pushy. It will depress or anger her that she is disappointing you. If she has a strong libido, don’t stay away from her just because it’s “that time of the month”. Figure something out that does not make either of you feel rejected or obligated.
Don’t antagonize her. Easier said than done, but avoid piquing her temper as much as possible.
Do something “thoughtful” for her. If possible avoid getting something in return: this will prove to her that you want her to be happy, and it’s not that you want something from her.
Prepare for extreme reactions. This goes in both directions. So if you’re nice to her to make her feel good, she may cry tears of joy over some flowers or you doing her dishes. Don’t let it freak you out. Hug her (carefully, this is not the time for rib-cracking squeezes), give her a kiss and hand her a tissue. She’ll love you for it.
Comfort yourself with an understanding that she is not enjoying her period and treat her with tenderness, but with a quiet strength. Your girlfriend will react well to your self assurance.
Be strong but not dominating.
Be gentle when touching, she may be sore/have a headache/ have cramps.
If/when the goo hits the propeller, explain that you are sorry she feels that way and exit asap. Being understanding does not mean that you should take abuse.
Flowers, her favorite dinner, a heating pad, massage! If she’s very sore, bubble bath and a chick flick.
If your wife/girlfriend is especially sensitive to PMS, it’s pays to keep track of her periods.
Chocolate, unless she feels it makes things worse. Some women get stronger cramps from chocolate.
Figure out when her period is and then you can know when to expect that she might be a little…yeah. Make a habit of giving her presents throughout the month. Not every day, but, once in a while some flowers or candy or something because if she knows her cycle and you give her chocolate the first day of her period every month, she might get suspicious.
If you know her cycle and one day she’s just really emotional when it ISN’T her period, remember that she can get cramps all month and be sure to ALWAYS be there for her.
Stupidity can destroy a relationship.
Even though she may be mean to you, DO NOT tolerate her physically abusing you. Maybe a slap is tolerable but unprovoked violence during that time of the month is abuse.
Not all women have PMS symptoms. Don’t try to blame your relationship issues on your girlfriend’s period. This is just immature. If she really suffers from PMS, that’s just a few days out of a whole month/year. Dig deeper to find the real core of your problems.
Probably the worst mistake you could make is assuming that she’s PMSing when she really isn’t, because it shows that you don’t respect her and you think she’s irrational.
If she IS going through PMS, NEVER EVER mention to her that her current animic state is due to PMS. Especially if she is having an argument/fight with you.
Do not share the fact that she is on her period with anyone. This is very private information and whoever you share it with may talk to your girlfriend about it. This will make her very uncomfortable and she may not feel like she can confide in you.
Things You’ll Need
Patience. AMAZING amounts of it.
Chocolate (if desired).
A kind heart